Stop ‘Should-ing’ Your Life.
Start Knowing What YOU Want
Prepare Your Inner People-Pleaser to Be Eased
(and learn how to say ‘No’!)
Live & In-Person With Me

Isn’t it frustrating when you’re always the one saying ‘Yes’, going out of your way, doing more or working harder than others and being taken for granted?

If you’re honest with yourself, wouldn’t it be an amazing relief to quiet your ‘Inner People-Pleaser’ and actually be able to say ‘No’ to someone or something sometimes?

This day with me will take you through the key exercises from my book ‘Stop ‘Should-ing’. Start Wanting.’ so that you can discover what you want to do, what you don’t, how to ditch some, transform others and quiet the voice of guilt about saying ‘No.’

If you want to move forward in life without the heavy energy of exhaustion, exasperation, or that feeling that you’re starting to begrudge or feel bitter about some of the things you get asked to do (or are assumed you’ll do!) – the BEST place to start is to make a choice.

Decide what you WANT.  Don’t always automatically do what you feel like you ‘Should’.

‘Should’ is an obligation, a heavy, burdensome, duty.
‘Want’ is a choice, a lighter, even exciting, desire.

Stop ‘Should-ing’ your life.
Start knowing what it is you actually want for yourself (and for others.)
Then you can start making choices and taking action in alignment with that desire – which is so much easier, lighter and positive than begrudgingly doing it because that’s what you ‘should’.

Amongst other benefits you will:

• Recognise what you’re feeling obliged to do and

• How to say “No” to some of it

• If ‘No’ just not possible – Learn how to turn duty into desire (Don’t begrudgingly do that overtime, or go to that party!)

• Begin to set boundaries on your time and space – set expectations & barter one thing for another (“I can ‘x’, if you can ‘y’.”)

• Discover what you’d actually love to do or who you want to spend time with

• Let go of guilt about wanting something different to others

• Stop working to other people’s agendas or expectations

• Start feeling like YOU have some power and control in your life

• Have a safe space in which to ask the questions you have been avoiding, like:
  ‘But what if people think I’m selfish?’ or ‘If I say ‘No.’ to others, will they hate me? ‘ and ‘Won’t I be seen as ‘difficult’?’ …. In short – No.  Some people might not like the change – but that’s because they’re used to you saying ‘Yes’ … (and I’ll give you some structures to help with that.)

This will be a practical and supported space where you will be with other people who have similar challenges to you.  You are not alone.

You will have the time and space to explore what it is you are subconsciously ‘shoulding’ in your life.

You will leave the day having changed how you think and feel about at least one of your current ‘shoulds’ – either by deciding to ditch it, do it, or deal with it.

“Seriously powerful stuff! Everything Judith delivers is platinum. Everything.”  (James Goodhew)

This course is for you if any of the below apply:

• You know you’re a bit of a people-pleaser and are looking for ways to reduce that
• You’re exhausted by & fed up of feeling like everyone always expects you to go out of
  your way, stay later, do more, help out, say ‘yes’… (because you usually do!)
• You want to know how to say ‘no’ more
• You want to feel more in control of your life
• You want to start making stronger choices for YOU in your life
• You know you’ve been held back in your professional life by this and you’re over it!

“I gained a lot of insights and tools to continue my growth. I recommend it.” Emily Birolini

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Location
Living Space, 1 Coral St, Waterloo, London SE1 7BE

Transport:
Busses: Right outside
Train/Tube: Waterloo – 7 Min Walk

Please Note:
In order to keep confidentiality within the group and to acknowledge awareness of the emotions of this work, you will be asked to sign an agreement form to participate in the  event.

If you have any questions please contact Judith before booking your space.